We all need plans. Making plans and following through on them gives us a purpose in life, but so often we have no plan, we’re meandering through life or at least through the next few months with no goal, no aim and therefore no purpose.
And I’m not really talking major life plans here, just what gets us through the next few months or years, just something that we really want to do or achieve or try.
For a long time now I’ve been an advocate of the
school of thought.
Particularly when it comes to travel and adventure, getting out there, having fun, exploring and experiencing … making memories.
In the contest between material possessions and memories, for me, memories and the making of them wins out every time.
Stop making excuses.
Last year around this time I got somewhat peeved by the amount of comments I was getting in response to my posts on travel and adventure. Many of these people were around my age or younger and they were coming up with all sorts of reasons why they couldn’t travel, why they couldn’t explore, go on adventures, challenge themselves to experience other cultures, other lifestyles.
All of theses reasons were just EXCUSES.
The problems, as most perceived them, always seemed to centre around financial constraints, family needs, lack of a travelling partner and then the big one – AGE.
They were coming up with reasons why they couldn’t rather than figuring out how they could.
No, you’re not too old!
I countered all of these arguments in a blog post but that last one, ‘I’m too old,’ still gets me riled. Far too many people fall back on age as a valid reason for not doing, not going, not experiencing, not living.
True, the numbers on our birth certificate tell us that we were born in a specific year and, yes, each year we add another number on to our age. Okay – so be it! But that doesn’t mean that we have to be defined by those numbers and use them as a limitation.
Those numbers should be a validation that, actually, we can get out there and do whatever we damn well please.
I fell into that trap.
But I’m getting off track here. As I said I get really annoyed when so many people make excuses as to why they can’t do what they’d like to do, so it was a bit of a shock when I realised that I was falling into that trap and starting to do the same.
I suddenly heard myself. I was making an excuse. I was saying ‘I can’t because ….’
My main excuse, like most of us, is financial. There’s not many people who have the luxury of unlimited funds allowing them to indulge in travelling, exploring and experiencing as much as their heart desires whenever their heart desires it.
It’s a sad fact of life that generally we have to earn the money before we can spend it. It’s also a good test for us, we have to learn to get the most out of every travel dollar.
Thinking positive thoughts.
When I listened to myself and heard that excuse come out of my mouth I realised that I had to start coming at this from a different direction. I had to start thinking positive instead of negative.
By thinking that I couldn’t do another hike soon, by accepting that I would have to stop wanting to do another hike soon I was beginning to fall into a hole.
I’ve been in these holes before, focusing on what I couldn’t do, getting annoyed, upset, disappointed and generally pissed off with life because it wasn’t going the way I wanted it to go.
The only way out of these holes is to climb out. To focus on what you want to happen and then make it happen.
Focus and make a plan.
I had to tell myself to start making plans and stop with the excuses.
So now I’m focusing on what I want to happen and I will make it happen. I just need to check on the logistics, make a plan and I’ll be right back to explain.
What’s your plan for the next few months?
Going anywhere nice? Doing anything exciting? Are you being adventurous and stepping outside your comfort zone?
FYI – ‘no’ is not an acceptable answer.